Bitch Session #2 - Judging Others

I've been wondering about different types of people. You see, I had a discussion regarding one of my friends who is dating a new guy. She isn't working right now so her 'new' man gave her money to pay some bills. I don't know the deal. I don't know if she is going to pay him back or if he gave it to her as a gift. However, I mentioned it to my man and he said, "How can she accept money from him?" Like it was a bad thing.

A lot of people think this way. How can a person accept money from someone else and probably not pay them back. Most of the people that think this way believe that the person accepting the money has no class or no self-respect. I personally believe that this is crap. I don't think they should be judging anyone or that someone is 'lesser' than someone else because they are accepting money.

You don't know that person's situation maybe if they don't take the money they will go bankrupt or something. Maybe they will get evicted from their place. Let's say the person that gave the money to them doesn't want it back. They might have done it with just the thought of being kind. Yes, some people are kind, shocking! Also, to some people money isn't everything and they might have a ton of it to spread around so getting maybe a few hundred dollars back isn't a big deal to them.

I was also thinking about a couple of my friends that willingly give money back..and of course want it paid back eventually..BUT they will not willingly take money. For example, let's say I needed money to pay a phone bill and one of my friends, Xena, gave it to me. Xena, would happily give it to me..but if the tables were turned she would not take my money. Her fucking pride would stop her and make her believe that it is wrong to take MY money. However, it is okay for her to dish out her money but she can not accept mine if she needed it. This makes me believe that this friend is full of shit! This makes me believe that this friend thinks she is better than me because her money is good enough for me..but MY money is not good enough for her when she needs it.

It makes me angry to think about this. There are people in the world that of course think they are better than you, but your own friends? Your friends would judge you if you accept money from someone and judge you again even if you try to pay it back but the person doesn't want it back. Oh yes my brothers & sisters, they will judge you if you try to give back the money and the other person does not accept it or want it back. I had a discussion with my man and he had this viewpoint: "Well, even if the person will not accept the money back, you NEED to TRY HARDER to give it back to them even if they made it clear that they do not want it back." My response (in my mind of course..) is: WHO THE FUCK ARE YOU to JUDGE!! and believe that a person lacks self-respect if they don't kill themselves to make sure that the person(that doesn't want the money back) gets the money back.

Okay, I feel better now that I have vented. Thank you.